Pain vs. Suffering

Most of us will experience loss, disappointed, and heartache, at some point in our lives. Some of our experiences are out of our control, then there are others that were most likely caused by our own decisions.

No matter, how these events come about, we usually experience similar symptoms...Tearfulnes, sadness, depression/anxiety, anger, hopelessness etc.

Although there is no time frame we should put on feeling “Not ok” to “Good,” there is a point when our emotional scars have a negative affect on most areas in our lives.

This is the difference between pain and suffering. When we are emotionally well, we learn to deal with our setbacks in a healthier way. That doesn’t mean you don’t go through hardships or that you are exempt from feeling those ”Not so good” emotions. It just means that you learn to react to what happens in a more productive way.

You acknowledge what you are feeling. You give yourself time to rest and address your emotions. You find ways to cope with the changes or events that have come to pass.

Pain is more of a short term feeling. Now that doesn’t mean you should be better in a month or by this date, it just means that you are able to bounce back in a way that allows you to move forward in your life.

When you are suffering, these ”Not so good” emotions seem to linger. They cause havoc in your home, at work, and in your relationships. You usually can’t find happiness in anything you are doing because those feelings follow you wherever you go. They affect how you respond to others, how you see yourself, and how you see the world.

Suffering is a disruption of your daily living. It stifles your ability to make positive change and plan for your future.

Here are some signs that you may be suffering emotionally:

1. ”I experience bad/negative thoughts frequently.

2. “I just can’t let go of what happened to me.”

3. “I have feelings of sadness and or anger frequently.”

4. ”I just don’t feel like myself.”

5. “Everyone seems to be happy but me.”

6. “I am not looking forward to the future.”

7. “I just can’t seem to get back on track no matter how hard I try.”

If you can identify with some of the statements above you may be suffering emotionally. The good news is, if you are reading this, it’s not too late to turn things around.

Sometimes it is as simple as sorting out your thoughts. Don’t be afraid to talk to someone. We often make the mistake of not seeking help in fear of being judged. If you feel that you can not shake these bad feelings/thoughts on your own, please find someone to help you get on top of your emotions.

Remember you are not “crazy.” You are human, and we all experience dark days. It is those that care enough to get back up and try again that will learn to live more fulfilling lives.

So if you are reading this, it’s ok to not be OK. Just make it temporary...

Remember you are so much better than your worst day!